By Army Staff Sgt. ShaTyra Reed-Cox

 

A father can be the most important influence in a boy’s life. He is the first example of what it means to be a man, and the lessons he passes on can stick with his son for life.

 

The lessons Army Spc. Armando Estrada learned from his father, Armando Estrada Sr., helped shape the man he grew up to be and prepared him for his future profession: a soldier in the United States Army.

 

“I didn’t need to be taught how to take care of fellow soldiers because my dad taught me how to treat others,” said Estrada, a utilities equipment repairer with Headquarters Support Company, Headquarters and Headquarters Battalion at U.S. Army South. “He taught me that there is always a way to help people.”

 

Giving More Than He Took

 

Estrada Sr. was an immigrant from México and a hardworking, single father of three boys. He taught them to never give up because you never know just how much you can change someone’s life.

 

I’ve been taught by my father that if something needs to be done, do it because it’s the right thing to do.
Army Spc. Armando Estrada

 

His teachings centered around respect and helping others who are less fortunate. That assistance doesn’t always hold monetary value, sometimes it comes in the value of a helping hand, Estrada said.

 

“My father gave more than he took. He didn’t have much, but he always gave what he could,” Estrada explained. “If he didn’t have money or food to give away, he provided his labor.”

A Second Family

 

After joining the Army, Estrada said he quickly realized many of the values he learned growing up in a Mexican American household were the same values expected of soldiers, such as working as a team, doing your fair share of work, and having each other’s backs.

 

“I’ve been taught by my father that if something needs to be done, do it because it’s the right thing to do,” Estrada said. “His teachings stick with me every day as a soldier.

 

His father’s teachings about family values are important parts of Estrada’s heritage and life. That extends to the family he’s gained while living on Fort Sam Houston in Texas.

 

“They’ve opened my eyes to new experiences,” Estrada said, smiling from ear to ear. “Here, it’s a second family.”

 

It’s been 10 years since Estrada’s father passed. Despite the years, the memory of him and the life lessons he shared have never faded, Estrada said.

 

“It brings me joy that I am doing something that he would be proud of,” said Estrada.

 

Estrada continues to honor his father every year during Día De Los Muertos, or Day of the Dead. The Mexican festivity honors death, the afterlife, and life itself, as families welcome back the souls of their departed family members to meet again.

 

Estrada Sr. loved spicy food, so Estrada makes it his mission every year to prepare his father’s favorite dishes and try to match his own tolerance for spiciness.

 

“The reason why I love the holiday is because we all come to celebrate them even though they aren’t around anymore,” Estrada said. “We get to do the things they loved to do but can’t do anymore.”

 

Estrada described his father as selfless and the family’s provider. Estrada Sr.’s strong work ethic and uncompromising dedication to the family was his daily gift to his kid.

 

“Motivation was never lacking. He inspired me to work hard because he made it easier on us,” Estrada said. “I want to show him that his life wasn’t in vain.”

 

 

Army Staff Sgt. ShaTyra Reed-Cox, U.S. Army South. Originally posted at defense.gov.